* fix: defer gateway restart until all replies are sent
Fixes a race condition where gateway config changes (e.g., enabling
plugins via iMessage) trigger an immediate SIGUSR1 restart, killing the
iMessage RPC connection before replies are delivered.
Both restart paths (config watcher and RPC-triggered) now defer until
all queued operations, pending replies, and embedded agent runs complete
(polling every 500ms, 30s timeout). A shared emitGatewayRestart() guard
prevents double SIGUSR1 when both paths fire simultaneously.
Key changes:
- Dispatcher registry tracks active reply dispatchers globally
- markComplete() called in finally block for guaranteed cleanup
- Pre-restart deferral hook registered at gateway startup
- Centralized extractDeliveryInfo() for session key parsing
- Post-restart sentinel messages delivered directly (not via agent)
- config-patch distinguished from config-apply in sentinel kind
Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>
* fix: single-source gateway restart authorization
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Co-authored-by: Claude Opus 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Co-authored-by: Peter Steinberger <steipete@gmail.com>
